In domestic settings, Indians tend to say men should have more prominent roles than women. About nine-in-ten Indians agree with the notion that a wife must always obey her husband, including nearly two-thirds who completely agree with this sentiment. Indian women are only slightly less likely than Indian men to say they completely agree that wives should always obey their husbands (61% vs. 67%), according to the survey, which was conducted between late 2019 and early 2020 (mostly before the COVID-19 pandemic).
Likewise, traditional gender norms still hold sway among large segments of the population: Roughly a third of adults (34%) feel that child care should be handled primarily by women.
Similarly, a slim majority (54%) say that both men and women in families should be responsible for earning money, but many Indians (43%) see this as mainly the obligation of men. And Indian adults overwhelmingly say that when jobs are in short supply, men should have greater rights to employment than women, reflecting the continued prominence of men in the economic sphere. Eight-in-ten agree with this sentiment, including a majority (56%) who completely agree.
This is so unbearable, impractical, and outdated considering the massive transformation in society worldwide.
For the same, an independent journalist named Sayantan Ghosh has challenged what has been believed to be assigned his own gender, that of a man of the house.
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In a Twitter Thread, Ghosh smashes the stereotypes by talking about how he lost his job back in 2021. As a result, he had to decide between staying in Delhi to look for more employment opportunities, or moving to Kolkata where his partner and her daughter live.
Or to return to Kolkata my hometown where my partner & her daughter stays. She is a working single mother. We decided that I will return. To spend time with the little one, with my partner, my parents. Today, I am working independently.
— Sayantan Ghosh (@sayantan_gh) April 28, 2022
He chose the latter and that has made all the difference.
Sayantan narrated how his life has changed these days for he now does household chores and doesn’t earn a lot of money, but the fact that he can spend quality time with his loved ones overrides it all.
I don’t earn much. But we try to spend a lot of time together. Where I learn parenting, become friends with the little one, be by her side in a legal battle, plan trips, cook for us, plan future & many more.
— Sayantan Ghosh (@sayantan_gh) April 28, 2022
His humility and open-mindedness are exemplary as he is humbly accepting the fact that he is earning less than his partner who is a working lady while it is expected that men earn more than their partners, and also, he is not shying away or taking offense in doing the household chores.
Gender teaches us wrong. We chose happiness, sanity & togetherness over gender roles. And today, we are living our life. Soon planing to move in together. Today morning I wanted to convey. If you are a man it’s ok to earn less. It’s ok to look after family and daily chores.
— Sayantan Ghosh (@sayantan_gh) April 28, 2022
Love prevails ❤️
— Sayantan Ghosh (@sayantan_gh) April 28, 2022
Twitteratti showered Sayantan with love, and kind words and called him an inspiration for all men who are held up by societal norms. Click here for twitter app download.
Heartwarming to see such great understanding between you two. Sometimes God is kind with people in their second innings. Let your Love blossom🌸
— Ravi R Saigal (@RaviRSaigal1) April 28, 2022
And here is a tweet, which smells rain during hot summer days…. Congratulations to you on choosing “Life” over madness… Sending love and bestest wishes..
— Saikata ..ਸਾਇਕਤਾ (@saikata4u) April 28, 2022
Thank you for sharing this. This isn’t just an enabling story, but a message of hope. We all need to look beyond the bullshit of norm & convention & define our own path.
— The Chimera Chaser (@amitdsinha) April 28, 2022
It is high time we celebrate all genders and let them be with their roles, shedding constraints of the age-old construct.