Do you find yourself coming home from work only to spend the night alone watching television? Are evenings with friends too few and far between? If you find yourself lonely and falling into social isolation, there are steps you can take to improve your wellness, but you have to be proactive about it.
1. Turn Off The Television
All of the top shows on TV feature characters in close relationships. This is a sure sign that they are being used to replace the intimacy that we are lacking in our lives. We start to think that we have relationships with the characters. Instead, the TV is getting between us and our real-life friendships. Turn off the TV and call up those friends. You won’t miss your shows.
2. Put in the Work
Perhaps you were always one of those people who would not take the initiative to call up friends to hang out. You would rely on them calling you. But, what happens when life gets busy and they stop calling? Building a support system to combat loneliness takes work. You must invest time and resources, but quality relationships are worth it. Ensure your home is welcoming and accessible, so there’s no reason for any of your friends and relatives not to be able to visit.
3. Don’t Let Your Things Own You
There is a rising tide of consumerism throughout the world. We spend long hours researching our purchases and looking for deals online. However, it is well-documented that the more we buy, the less enjoyment it brings to our lives. Instead of working 60+ hours per week to buy things, sit on the floor and talk with friends.
4. Develop A Sense Of Community
Any group can be a community. It could be surrounding yourself with friends who you respect, who you want to share your life with, and who love you. It could be a cricket team. A community is having friends show up to pull you away from the computer. Your community is always available.
5. Avoid The Snowball
When you have been alone for so long, it is hard to come out of solitude. You figure that others will reject you or simply not understand you. You may also think that you cannot maintain a relationship that will make you happy. As with anything, you develop social skills over time. Just keep in mind that you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain.
6. Put People Before Places
We tend to romanticise the lonely traveler. After all, when you visit places on your own, you have complete control over your itinerary and don’t have to worry about pleasing others. However, as you watch people enjoy themselves on the street, you feel a need to connect. It is good to get out and meet new people, but don’t think you can run away from your loneliness.
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