It is not the big decisions, but the small ones that change your life forever.

When you lose direction in life, you need an anchor to sail smoothly. At times you might have looked back in your life and questioned the things you were once proud of. But to reinvent yourself, you need to stop feeling stuck.

Even though at times, you may feel that you have wasted a lot of time, understand that change is the only constant and moving forward is the only way.

1. Learning to say No when needed

Be polite. But be direct when it comes to saying no. It is always best to stay true to yourself. Saying yes is easy at times, but it is necessary to take charge of your life and live it on your own terms.

2. Understanding self-worth

If you don’t respect yourself, don’t expect others to do it for you. You will always find people in your life who will judge you, but don’t make or shift your decision depending on what other people think is right for you. Note down your strengths and weaknesses and act on them accordingly. You are awesome in your own way. Period.

3. Wearing your smile and self-confidence

Nothing will look more beautiful on you than your smile and confidence. While the world has shifted all its focus on outer appearance or physical beauty, step back and look for the beauty within instead. It will stay with you forever.

4. Live and let live

Do not make other people’s business your business. You will have a lot of time to take care of your own. Focus on your life instead and do everything possible to make it better. Help people when you make them see mistakes, but don’t force your ideas on them.

5. Embracing change

Change is the only constant and therefore, if you believe in something and decide to continue it, do it with discipline and determination. Don’t leave it mid-way. The journey is always more important than the destination, so live your life wisely.

6. Valuing logic and reasoning

Take any situation- There is a huge difference between what you know, what you are told and what really happened. Remember broken glass can be fixed in a manner that its cracks are not visible if one is willing to come forward and give effort.

7. Forgiving

It takes a lot of energy to hold a grudge against someone. Forgiving doesn’t mean to forgive the other person who wronged you and forgetting doesn’t mean to erase the memory of the incident. Forgive yourself and make peace with the past. Let it go and you will feel light and ready enough to look forward to beautiful things that await you in life.

8. Understanding other people’s perspective

No one is wrong, everybody has a different lens through which they see life. What appears wrong to you, maybe it is right for others.

9. Believing that self-care is not selfish

Self-care is a discipline. When you take care of yourself, then automatically you become equipped to take care of others. You are not meant to just exist on earth, you are meant to live your life and enjoy it to the fullest. A healthy mind is essential for healthy relationships. Never compromise on your ME TIME.

10. Creating happiness

Happiness is not stored anywhere or someone will not miraculously appear to give it to you. Being happy is a choice and it will come from your own actions. How you treat others is how you invite them to treat you.

11. Living the NOW

Make every moment count and don’t attach so much importance to your past. Remember, a great future doesn’t necessarily require a great past. “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.” 

12. Being thankful

Having people in your life who love you, care for and are always willing to stand by you when you are in a difficult situation- makes it beautiful.

13. Knowing that “Karma is a bitch”

Before checking your action, check your thoughts. Take this advice not as a suggestion but as a rule- Law of Karma. If your intention is pure and not covered in greed, lust, envy, gluttony, pride, sloth or hatred, you have nothing to be worried about. There is no harm in carefully planning your life and checking your thoughts, actions or their consequences.

Haven’t thought before, eh?