Life is beautiful. One of the things that makes life worth living is love. There are some who prefer staying single throughout their lives because they feel being in a relationship is way too complicated. Besides, they are aware of the inevitable pain associated with breakups.
One thing lovebirds must keep in mind is – at first, things are roses all the way. However, both should be mature enough to tackle all kinds of thorny problems that come as a part and parcel of any relationship in the world.
But at times, the situation becomes such that two people who were very much in love have to say goodbye to each other after being together for years or maybe just a few months. Come what may, a breakup should be the last option.
Are you in a relationship that you want to end? Think twice. Talk to yourself and try to save it instead. Here are 7 questions to ask yourself about your relationship before breaking up with your partner.
1. Have the golden years of togetherness turned into ordinary days of habit now?
You were once your partner’s priority but now, he or she takes you for granted. At one point in time, it was so much about romance and lovemaking. But nowadays, do you find him or her losing interest in you and treating sex just as a habit? Then it’s time for a serious discussion. Talk it out and try to rekindle the spark in your relationship.
2. Is the current status of our relationship more about fights & compromises or patience & understanding?
Sit down. Think. And analyze the current scenario. How frequently are the two of you arguing and fighting with each other? Are you the only one sacrificing time and again? Trust, patience, and understanding hold the key to building a strong foundation of a relationship. Think about the current status with a cool and calm mind and only then arrive at a decision.
3. Does my partner still love me and most importantly, is he/she giving me that much-needed respect?
Now, this is one of the most important questions to ask yourself in a relationship. If your partner still loves you, then he/she will be caring enough to make time for you in spite of a busy schedule. He/she will not only respect you as an individual but also your dreams. If your so-called lover embarrasses or ridicules you in front of other people and is unapologetic about it, then it’s of no use being a part of such a relationship.
4. Am I truly happy or just pretending to be so?
Are you really happy or trying hard to be so? Is he/she forcing you to change and be someone you are not? Are you tricking yourself into believing that your relationship is sailing smoothly when it’s not? Then calling it quits wouldn’t be such a bad idea.
5. Is he/she the one I want to grow old with?
Think very carefully. Do you see him/her as the ideal life partner with whom you would want to spend the ‘grey hair’ days? Always remember – The lust of the younger days does not last, but true love manages to crash through the barriers of time.
6. Is he/she the reason behind my smile or my stress?
If he/she makes you laugh and is the reason behind your broadest smile, then the relationship is certainly on. But if you’re stressed and disturbed more often than not, then your relationship is toxic and you need to end it at the earliest. Period!
7. Can I enjoy life without him/her by my side?
Ask yourself – Can you imagine your life without him or her? Are you afraid to lose your beloved? You still feel that he or she will always stand by you in the most difficult of times, don’t you? Then don’t break up, it’s as simple as that.
There are many questions to ask to save a relationship. Come on, try to kiss and make up. One thing is for sure – your love life can’t be absolutely perfect! But if it has reached a point where you both can’t stand each other, then breaking up seems like the only option. Forget about what others will say. It’s your life after all.
However, you can also revive your relationship by asking these questions to increase closeness in your relationship. If you feel the need, don’t shy away from seeking the advice of a relationship counselor. Who knows? It may help in setting things right.